All You Have to Do is Decide
The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: Decide what you want. - Ben Stein
I couldn’t agree more with Mr. Stein. Deciding what I actually wanted instead of sitting on the fence was such a pivotal moment in my life. I decided I deserved to have the life I wanted simply because it’s what I wanted. I didn’t have to prove anything to myself or the outside world, or earn being worthy, and neither do you. We’re all born inherently worthy of living the life that we know is right for us in our hearts. When we’re children, the world and our opportunities are limitless and filled with amazing possibilities. But somewhere along the way, society, our friends, coworkers, or even parents can make us feel like we have to play small, to earn what we desire, or that work is hard.
I challenge you to find some of that childhood wonder you may keep buried down inside of you, and dream BIG. Build the life you want in your journal, or through vividly imagining exactly what it looks like. That may mean a perfect penthouse apartment in the city with weekly dinner parties with friends all supported by your thriving coaching business. You have an open and loving relationship with your partner and the two of you are able to spend quality time together every day. You hire out any of the business or household tasks that you don’t want to do or don’t enjoy doing. Nourishing quality food and daily movement aren’t just a dream for the future, they’re your reality. You always have more than enough money, and clients find you with ease.
For me, it looks like a large, single story, modern home on 10 acres with privacy, all of the top of the line amenities (including an amazing kitchen). Minimally decorated in whites and greys, and a bathroom with an oversized, standalone tub. There’s space for all of my animals (even an awesome catio), an oversized shop, a barn that smells like hay and horses, and plenty of space to play on the property without running into anyone other than my husband. We have a lovely person that cares for our home and animals like their own when we’re off traveling, and we spend time with our families and one another all over the world. I work 20 hours or less a week bringing SO much value to my clients, and my clients almost always end up becoming my friends. I’m inspired by the business owners I work with and it keeps me fired up and in my zone of genius when I’m able to help them continue growing their businesses to support the life of their dreams and take control of their finances. My husband is able to pursue all of his interests and this facilitates an even more open and loving marriage.
In my mind, this property and life are already something I’ve decided are mine. The business is what I have right now, and it continues to grow and bring more value with each passing year, to support our current and future life. I regularly work through both new and recurring limiting beliefs, and am constantly focusing on taking aligned action to move my life forward. I use the exact steps below every single day to make what I decide my reality.
Step 1: Decide what you want in your life.
Step 2: Assess where you are currently and what changes need to occur.
Step 3: Acknowledge and disprove limiting beliefs that come up.
Step 4: Take aligned action that moves you towards what you want.
Step 5: Rinse and repeat
So in my case, this looked like deciding that we wanted to sell our house, and that my business and income would be more than enough to purchase our new home, pay for our health insurance, our fun, and our travel. Then it was working through limiting beliefs of “But to grow my business 2x or more, I’ll have to increase my hours”. That doesn’t have to be true for any of us. I can also add to my passive income by either increasing my course offerings to help more people, working on referral income sources, or adding higher value 1:1 service offerings so my time commitment doesn’t increase. I decided to do all of the above and it’s working. Every month all of my income streams continue to grow and support our life. We also decided to sell our house this month and take the freaking leap already. We’ve been talking about it for years, and while we weren’t comfortable selling at the time, we still made sure to prioritize upgrades on the house knowing that we would be selling in the future. This allowed us to stay focused on the end game instead of getting stuck in the weeds.
That it can be easy.
That you’re worthy.
To make GREAT money.
To only work with clients that light you up while doing work you love.
That you deserve to have the life you’ve dreamed of.
The house, the health, the family, the travel - it’s already yours.
What’s waiting on you in your life for you to simply make a move and DECIDE?